Cold

I was listening to songs about the term "cold"  Omarion sang a song on it, recently, maroon 5 did one too... Among other innumerable work on Cold
Though we are not here to talk about music, we can draw some understanding from the music about it..
Cold... Been cold... She is cold... He is cold... Cold-hearted some many ways to use the word cold... But what is cold,  Omarion in his music said he was so cold... Therefore, a lack of warmth... Maroon 5 hinted that it was a state of rejection and lack of love from the person you love..
Cold a state of coolness... Calm or a state of been wicked of lack of love...
However, just like water... For it to change its state from liquid to solid cold, it must undergo a chemical reaction.. A state of freezing...
Like wise, for the cold woman... She was once liquid, in experienced, in love, blank, uninformed, an open book, a blank sheet... Then life happened, the chemical reaction, the freezing agent, the deal breaker and voila.. She's cold
My question this very morning is.. Do we hate her for her coldness, Or do we hate life for making her this? Do we adjudge her bad, or do we decide to look at the circumstances leading to her been this way? And if we did look at the circumstances, should check places where the ball was in her court and blame her for not taking the best decision to be the best man or do we excuse that no matter her decision, she couldn't have predicted the end, that the beginning, she didn't expect life to lead to this? Who do we blame for the ice for a heart she has, Her, Life or the men and women in her life?